Are You Dating to Date or Dating to Marry?
Demez White | 2/21/2013, 11:39 a.m.
Raise your hand if you’re over 25, over 30, over 40 and still wondering where your Prince Charming or Cinderella is? Don’t feel bad if you feel like you can’t catch a break in this maze we call dating because there are a lot of people that feel exactly like you do. It’s almost become taboo to say “I’m lonely,” or “I want someone serious in my life because I’m not getting any younger.”
What’s dating to date and what’s dating to marry?
Dating to date is spending time with anyone that asks you or that you find attractive regardless of whether or not you can see yourself with this person for longer than a month or two. Dating to date is texting and social networking as soon as you walk into the restaurant to meet him/her because for you this is simply a way to get out the house.
When you date to date you deprive yourself of maybe meeting someone that you could really like. But more importantly you play with the feelings and emotions of a person that might really like you. So for you this is just time out the house, for them it’s dating to marry, time with you could possibly be something serious.
Dating to marry is going into a situation with the mindset that I really like this person. This doesn’t mean you’re exclusive after one date or fall in love after two. But it means you make a focused, good faith effort to let your intentions be known. You cut off all the random men or women that you were just dating to date, you call more, text more, start to open up more.
Dating to marry may lead to a long term friendship, it could lead to a long term relationship; the point is, it’s going to lead to something because there’s a chemistry that can’t be denied and a likeability factor that you both know exist.
Time is the most valuable commodity we own because unlike cash, real estate or cars we cannot get time back. Neither yours nor the person whose time you’re wasting.
I’m the last man that will tell people not to go out and have fun and see what you like, what you’re attracted to, what makes you smile. But only you know if you’re dating to really build something or if you’re dating to move around.
Do what makes you happy, just know that time waits for no man and when the day comes that you decide you want more… Remember all the potentially great people you never even took serious.
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