Lovell's Food For Thought - What is Maturity?
CNN/Stylemagazine.com Newswire | 3/9/2014, midnight
Sometimes, the best Food For Thought comes from a known but unknown source. And some of my best Food For Thoughts need to be republished, especially when the author needs to be reminded. Reverend Will Bowen gave the Mother’s Day sermon a few years ago. In July of 2006, Reverend Bowen handed out 250 purple bracelets inviting people to use them as a tool to eradicate complaining from their lives. He was not the first to come up with the idea, but the first to use the purple bracelet to help work their way to a complaint-free life (www.acomplaintfreeworld.org). That is every day you complain while wearing the bracelet you change it to the other wrist. The goal is to go 21 days without complaining. After 4 plus years I am still working on reaching 21 days. So I am sitting here today and I must admit that I need a refresher course. Retirement, and the things I see continuing to happen, has caused me to backslide even more. As my wife says, people see you coming and look for an exit path. I don’t know how true that it, but sometimes it is just hard not to complaint. However, I must say that in reading “What is Maturity?”, his sermon that day hit the nail on the head.
The title of his sermon was to be “If it’s not one thing, it’s my Mother.” However, life and one greater than us all, has a way of changing things. Unfortunately Reverend Bowen’s mother died just before he was to give the sermon on Mother’s Day. This event changed his presentation. Because he was an ordained minister, his brothers decided to give him his mother’s bible. In looking through it, he found news clipping along with other pieces of written material that his mother kept. Eventually it was decided his brother would keep the clippings, other than what he had written to his mother. The day he got the bible he found a clipping that he knew was not there the day before. He is certain because his brother shook the bible every which way he could to get all of the clippings out of it. He was sure there was nothing there because he went through the bible himself the night before with a “fine tooth comb.” Then, all of a sudden a clipping appeared that was entitled “Maturity”. This became the basis of his sermon. The end result was almost 21 days of a significant reduction in complaining. Now, what I would like to share is that clipping witwith you. Maturity is…..
“Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction. Maturity is patience, the willingness to pass up immediate pleasure in favor of long-term gain.
Maturity is perseverance, the ability to sweat out a project, or a situation in spite of opposition and discouraging setbacks.
Maturity is unselfishness – responding to the needs of others, often at the expense of one’s own desires of wishes.
Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness and frustration, discomfort and defeat, without complaint or collapse.
Maturity is humility. It is being big enough to say, “I am wrong.” And , when right, the mature person need not say, “I told you so.”
Maturity is the ability to make a decision and stand by it. The immature spend their lives exploring endless possibilities, then do nothing.
Maturity means dependability, keeping one’s word, coming through in a crisis. The immature are masters of the alibi – confused and disorganized. Their lives are broken promises former friends, unfinished business and good intentions which never materialize.
Maturity is the art of living in peace with that which we cannot change.”
Nothing more needs to be said, other than trying the purple bracelet and see how long you can go without complaining. For me, I can’t promise any more Food For Thoughts without a complaint or two, but what I can promise is a more willingness to living in peace with that I cannot change. And with that, hopefully I will do a little less complaining in my personal life.