Tween 12 & 20: She Will Know That You Were Honest
Creators Syndicate | 5/8/2014, 9:06 a.m.
BY DR. ROBERT WALLACE
DR. WALLACE: I have become infatuated with an absolutely great guy and it gets more intense every day. The only problem is that one of my girlfriends has also got a crush on him. This guy and I have been talking nearly every day at school, and it's obvious that he likes me. One day I asked him if he had any romantic interest in my girlfriend and he said no, but that she was just a good friend of his. So now this guy has asked me out and I'm going to go out with him, but I'm worried that this might be difficult for me because I have to tell my friend that I'm going out with him. I don't know what to say to her, but I don't want her to find out after the date. Help! -- Nameless, Crown Point, Ind.
NAMELESS: Talk to your girlfriend face to face and tell her that you are excited that this guy has asked you out and that you have decided to go out with him. Tell her that you'll let her know how the date went and if you think you'll go out with him again. Finish by letting her know that she is a good friend and you know that she is happy for you.
Only time will tell how she will react. But at least she knows that you were being honest with her.
I CAN'T DATE UNTIL AFTER I GRADUATE
DR. WALLACE: I'm in ninth grade and, of course, I'm interested in boys. My problem is that my parents said that I'm not allowed to date until after I graduate from high school. Their reason is that they feel it would interfere with my studies. I don't know why they're so worried because I've had straight A's for the past four years and I would never allow my grades to slip and affect my future. My parents come from a culture where the parents arrange marriages and my parents never even dated at all. I could understand if they made me wait until I was 16, but to wait until I graduate is too restrictive. Please tell me what you think about this. -- Nameless, Orlando, Fla.
NAMELESS: Don't force the issue now. In two years, your mom and dad could have different ideas about dating. When you reach 16, you could ask a trusted teacher or counselor to intercede on your behalf if it's necessary.
SMILE AND GO ON YOUR MERRY WAY
DR. WALLACE: I'm in the 7th grade and get excellent grades. I love animals and want to be a veterinarian after I finish my education. In my social studies class, my teacher designated me as a teacher's aide. This means that I do errands and help in the class by sometimes grading student tests that have true or false answers. And sometimes I help with the bulletin boards after school. I really like helping the teacher, but sometimes other kids call me names like "teacher's pet" and even "traitor." I do not enjoy these negative names, especially "traitor." What should I do? -- Nameless, Riverside, Calif.
NAMELESS: Those immature students who call you names are actually envious, and they would jump at the chance to be a teacher's aide if they could. Don't answer the name callers. That's exactly the reaction they would like. Be the adult in the group; just smile and go on your merry way.
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