Behind the Mike: Happy Valentine's Day

Michael A. Aun | 1/6/2015, 11:07 a.m.
I was visiting a local jewelry store recently to do some shopping for Valentine’s Day. While perusing the choices for ...
Michael Aun

I was visiting a local jewelry store recently to do some shopping for Valentine’s Day. While perusing the choices for my wife of some four decades, I couldn’t help but overhear a conversation of a fellow customer who had decided on a bracelet with hearts for a girlfriend.

The jeweler asked him what he wanted engraved on the back. “For my one and only!” replied the customer. “No name?” queried the jeweler. “No… in case it doesn’t work out I can use it again!”

Sadly, that seems to be more the rule than the exception these days. With nearly half the American population experiencing at least one divorce, it begs one to question the line…“till death do us part.”

Nearly 90% of all marriages take place before the age of 50. A healthy marriage is good for couples and children. On the other hand, an unhealthy union can cause havoc.

It seems like some couples enter their relationships too casually. Casualness leads to casualties. That applies to anything you do in life but more importantly to marriage than anything else. Why? Because it affects everything else.

Too many people enter marriage with a fallback position… if it doesn’t work out… I’ll….whatever. A more important question: “How can I make this work better?”

True, if you’re with the right person, everyday is Valentine’s Day. But even if you have the right soul mate, it doesn’t mean you don’t have to constantly work at it.

One of my most embarrassing Valentine’s Day memories came when I was a young student at Lexington Elementary School in South Carolina. A girl named Sherry was sitting behind me in class. She decided to tear a piece of paper into tiny bits and put it on top of my head. I’ll never forget how embarrassed I was at the prank.

Whether she was flirting with me or not I was too dumb and defensive to know the difference. I felt like the dog which chases the bus. I wouldn’t know what to do with it if I caught it.

Girls could get away with that kind of nonsense when we were children. If a boy pulled the same gag, not only would he face discipline from the teacher, but you’d also suffer the wrath of your male classmates and fellow Cub Scouts.

In general, girls that age are always smarter than us guys… still are I’d guess. It reminded me of an old Cub Scout story we used to share at Scout Troop 306 in St. Stephen’s Church there in Lexington.

A Cub Scout found a frog that could talk. The frog said to the Scout, “Kiss me and I’ll turn into a beautiful princess!” The boy studied the frog and decided to put it into his pocket. Frustrated, the frog said “Hey, why won’t you kiss me?” The Scout said I’d rather have a talking frog than a princess!

I get that. The fact is I can understand a talking frog more than I can most females, regardless of the age. As dumb as most of us men are, it’s no wonder that women who give “mixed signals” are “misunderstood.”

I’m convinced that Valentine’s Day is the brainchild of Hallmark Cards along with the aid and assistance of the jewelry, candy and flower industries. Follow the money and you’ll find the culprit.

Seriously, is it about lovey-dovey stuff? I doubt it. To cut to the chase, retailers have found still a new way to get into our wallets after we just got over Christmas and the January Visa bill.

Clint Eastwood once said that “Marriages are made in heaven… but so is thunder and lightning.” The plain fact is there are no guarantees in life. If you want a guarantee, buy a toaster. Some people give up on relationships because they can’t get the guarantee they want.

A person who loves you will never let you go regardless of the situation. The truth is we fall in love by chance, but we stay in love by choice.

When marriages work for forty years or longer, it takes a great deal of compromise, but more importantly, the ability to forgive. If you have a great love in your life, hang on to them. It’s a difficult thing to replicate!

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