The Case for Mixed-Race Relationships

Style Magazine Newswire | 7/10/2020, 4:20 a.m.
What is race? That four letter word that has plagued American culture since its inception, as it turns out, may ...

By Robert Thompson, Founder of InterracialDatingCentral.com

What is race? That four letter word that has plagued American culture since its inception, as it turns out, may not even be real, but rather a political and financial ruse used to manipulate and separate people. According to a 2018 National Geographic article titled, There's No Scientific Basis for Race – It's a Made Up Label, "Over the past few decades, genetic research has revealed two deep truths about people. The first is that all humans are closely related—more closely related than all chimps even though there are many more humans around today. Everyone has the same collection of genes."

A 2017 article put out by Harvard University asks the question, "[Is]race a myth - a mere social construct - and biologically meaningless?" It goes on to state, "today, scientists prefer to use the term 'ancestry' to describe human diversity. 'Ancestry' reflects the fact that human variations do have a connection to the geographical origins of our ancestors. With enough information about a person’s DNA, scientists can make a reasonable guess about their ancestry. However, unlike the term 'race,' it focuses on understanding how a person’s history unfolded, not how they fit into one category and not another."

On an anecdotal level, if you were to crack open a current day middle school history textbook (just in case you need a refresher), a pretty grim portrait is painted of Europeans scouting lands on other continents that were rich in natural resources, conquering those lands and indigenous people, and claiming ownership based on little more than feelings of self-entitlement and self-proclaimed superiority.

It seems what we are looking at are artificially constructed concepts of racial designation based on financial gain and the acquisition of global turf that has remained with us over centuries, as propaganda and myth were accepted as fact. This is not about pointing fingers as to whose ancestors did what to whom, but to point out the dysfunctional origins of race designation, that in my opinion, have negatively impacted all people.

Although older generations may sit you down for the old Bird and Fish conversation(a bird and a fish can fall in love… but where will they build their nest…?) when it comes to the presumed perils of dating or marrying outside one's race or ethnicity, another 2017 article, this one written by Psychology Today, concludes, "if we compare mixed-race and same-race couples who enjoy the same quality of life, we find no difference in divorce rates. In this sense, there’s no evidence for the received wisdom that biracial marriages are more likely to fail."

In fact, in 2020, mixed couples are more likely to experience pushback from well-meaning members of their own respective inner circles than they will from society at large, causing many mixed-race couples to say, "Mom, dad,you are the ones discriminating against us. Society is busy with its own problems."

As we explore the disturbing hot button issues of white privilege, police brutality and hate crimes, yes, society's problems can spill over into mixed couplings and mixed families, though in a most curious way. A Caucasian person may be worried about his/her Black partner when that partner is out and about without them, thereby removing the veil of white privilege they provide when the couple is together. Mixed race children that are half Caucasian and half Black also tend to benefit from the veil of white privilege extended to them when they are in the presence of the white parent. This may lead to a false sense of security if lessons about racial discrimination and violence against Black Americans are not taught by both parents. The bottom line is that this is an issue that impacts the Black members of that family when the Caucasian partner is not around; a problem that would have effected them as Black Americans with or without their mixed relationship or mixed family dynamic.